Christians Who Mingle: Part 2

At a wedding recently, the father of the bride made a speech about how God had honored his daughter by bringing her a husband because she had been faithful to God. It was a nice speech, but it's also a false truth. One that most of the church has bought into, unfortunately. We think that if we check all the morality boxes on the list that God is obligated to give us what we want in return. 

This theory is affirming to married people who can feel justified that they must've met approval and crossed the finish line, so to speak. So when things don't line up with this theory, they make more excuses to fit the story that they're selling. 

Such as the lie of "you haven't met your spouse yet because God just hasn't finished perfecting you yet." This is quoted about as much as Scripture, and it's highly detrimental to a single person's self-esteem. What this statement is actually saying is that married people have achieved some level of perfection and that you, as a single person, are not good enough as you are. In essence, we're telling people they are unloveable. How un-Christian! God is always at work to perfect people - both single and married. You do not have to wonder what's wrong with you if you're single, and you certainly should not assume that you have all the answers if you're married. The truth is most married people just got lucky enough to meet the right person sooner rather than later. They most often do not possess greater skill or knowledge than a single person. Now, there are single people who are single because of stupidity and poor choices. Just like there are some people who use some savvy skills to get married, for example Anna Nicole! 

Today's Moral Of The Story: The fact that you are single does not mean there is something wrong with you. In fact, it sometimes means that you were smart enough to leave a bad relationship. The fact that you are married means that you have a partner to love you, share life with you and grow more perfect together.