Not a chauvinist. Not a slacker. Where are those guys?

If you've been on the internet lately or turned on a tv, you've probably seen a good deal of memes and stories about women. Women play half the roles in world history, and I'm glad to see the increase in news stories about female successes in numerous arenas. Amid the cries for equality, however, I keep hearing complaints lately about chauvinistic men. Men who want their women to stay and not work. Men who think she should be home to cook and clean. Men living in the past and thinking it's still the 1950's. Men who have the gall to be the sole provider and take care of their families. And I think to myself, "Where are those men?"

Now, don't misunderstand me. I worked hard for my degrees, and I consider myself blessed to be an educated woman working in my chosen field and supporting myself. When I cook, it's because I want to cook. If I don't feel like it, nobody is upset. When I pick up dirty socks off the floor, they're mine that I dropped there yesterday after the gym. I go out when I want to, and I stay in when I want to. I fully appreciate the advantages of my single life, and I'm not looking for someone to take away all my freedom.

But seriously, where are the traditional men? The men who want marriage rather than hookups? The men who want to provide for their family? Not in a sugar daddy kind of way where I'm lying around in an expensive negligee eating bon-bon's at home while he's out earning a living, but in a "let's build a life together" kind of way. Where are the men who appreciate that I want and like to cook you a nice meal? The men who look around their bachelor's apartments and think "this place could use a woman's touch?" 

I'm not looking for a chauvinist who thinks he's smarter than me because he has a penis. I have met one or two of those. But why is the only other option a millennial mama's boy who can't get his act together?!

Perhaps we've confused the men by being too independent. We told them that we can take care of ourselves so we don't need them. In recent years there's been a far higher number of women going to college versus men and that's intimidating to some men. Now we've got a bunch of intelligent career minded women in the workplace and if they're fishing for a similarly educated man, there's a much smaller pool. Of course, degrees and education aren't job specific for the role of "significant other" but being skilled at something is an attractive quality. I'm not looking to be anybody's sugar mama either!

Moral of Today's Story: 

I don't need a man, but I'd like a man. Not a chauvinist and not a slacker. I'm a modern day June Cleaver looking for my Ward. My life is pretty fabulous as it is, and I'm going to need someone who is also fabulous on his own to take the job. I'm just not sure where he is.